But the good news is that, by understanding the way an AS man’s brain is wired and making the most of his qualities, it is possible to bring out the best in him – and have a fulfilling, or certainly less frustrating, relationship.
Men with (suspected) Asperger’s are everywhere – in the highest offices of power and at the top of the most influential companies.
Does he pick the exact moment when you’re trying to unpack the food shopping, feed the children and let the dog out, all at once, to ask why his navy argyle socks are not in the drawer?
If his behaviour seems inexplicable – and, frankly, infuriating – then you’ll be relieved to hear that there may be a good explanation for it: Asperger’s syndrome (AS).
This also applies to the part of the relationship that includes sex and romance: very often there is no sexual relationship at all; or the NT-partner feels as if she is the Mom of the partner, who behaves like an immature child in an adult’s body; or the female with Asperger’s in the relationship can become asexual, as soon as a child is born; or the middle-aged male-partner with Asperger’s (ASD) and a good academic career can’t understand why it is wrong to expose his private parts in public areas, if he feels like it.
These are some of the confusing scenarios which arise regularly in NT/ASD marriages.
Many NT-AS marriages seem to quickly become celibate.