She just knows that the way to a guy’s heart is to shut up and let him make the moves.
Picture: Michael Oliver-Semenov One I very much wanted to avoid and would have had my editor and wife not goaded me into providing an answer.
I must tread carefully as my wife and editor are both Siberian women and I don’t want to lose this space on the Times or wake up to find I have had parts of me removed by a very angry wife.
On the forums of a Japanese culture site aimed at foreigners there were plenty of threads with titles such as “Are Japanese guys not interested in white girls? ” These girls were all wanting to discuss how to make themselves appealing to Japanese men, and thankfully they were treated to a handful of great tips for how to do just that from one especially worldly-wise love expert. Clear, white skin is the essence of beauty in Japan; if you’ve ever been to a beauty counter in Japan you’ll have seen the amount of potions and lotions promising whiter, brighter skin. According to one girl’s analysis, white skin is associated with purity, innocence and youth. Here’s just a few adjectives that Madame Riri takes careful note of: “gracious, respectful, modest, slightly demure, innocent, friendly, approachable, sensitive.” Apparently the most important attribute, however, is shyness.
As there is great importance attached to a woman’s youth, or at least appearance of youth, if you want to bag yourself a Japanese man then you first need to get that “perfect” skin. Acting shy will make you seem “cute”, and being a “cute girl” is what many Japanese girls strive to be.
The preferred route, our expert tells us, is for the girl to act shy, which ups their cuteness factor and makes it easier for the guy to approach them.