However, there’s nothing more futile than getting back into dating or a relationship before you’re emotionally ready. My mom has this saying, “The only time you should be dating is when you know you don’t need to be dating.” She’s a wise lady because it’s true.The only time you should be dating is when you’re already comfortable being single and hanging out solo.
Dear Eliza, Sorry to say, but there’s not really a one-size-fits-all answer to this question.
Consider the number of variables involved in answering: Are there children involved?
Don’t key his car, kidnap his cat, or destroy his stuff. Maybe you’d just rather be in a bad relationship than be in no relationship at all. Learn what you can from the relationship that just ended and move forward. Be thankful that the wrong relationship ended to free you up for the right one.
And never, ever do something that could land you in legal trouble. There will be times when it’s important to communicate with an ex. Maybe you have to deal with a shared lease or pet custody. Instead of clinging to lost hope, find a wise friend who can help you walk through the reasons why you’re having a hard time letting go. Deep down, you know that you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone you had to beg to be with you. Take some time to refocus and pursue the things you’ve always loved to do.
Do you still want to get back together with your ex? You see how all of these things can radically impact your decision as to when to get back out there? I couldn’t convince her to take me back, so I did what I do best – I went back online – literally MINUTES after I returned home from the teary breakup.