Guys build up the occasion in their mind for days or weeks beforehand, only to be severely let down after the fact.
This is why most of my favorite first dates are structured to avoid the “audition” frame that so many first dates turn in to – sitting awkwardly across from each other, asking the 10 standard getting-to-know-you questions everybody asks and spending most of the date inside your own head instead of, y’know, enjoying yourselves.
This is one of the reasons I prefer to avoid the coffee date and the dinner-and-a-movie date: they’re cliche and boring and minimize any real chance for interaction.
If you want to get that second date, you need to know how to ace the first date and what common pitfalls and mistakes you need to avoid. You want to focus on three things: fun, conversation and a hint of sexual tension.
You want your date to go home thinking about what a great guy she just hung out with and how much fun it would be to see him again.
Preparing for it can take a lot of time, but have you prepared for what happens afterwards as well?