This topic is not easy to talk about for neurotypical (NT) spouses of an adult with Asperger’s Syndrome/ autism (ASD).Their intimate life with their loved one in marriage is private.
Therefore, the ways in which they express and interpret feelings of closeness may be so unexpected (according to average, neurotypical standards) that this communication may be unnoticed or misinterpreted by their partners, For AS people, sharing a beloved special interest, with all its minutiae, may be a most intimate act.
Practical tasks are another way that many people with AS show affection — but this may be a social and emotional cue missed by those neurotypical partners who’d rather have roses than weekly inﬂation of their tires!
In my book I talk about being able to trust as an important ingredient in being able to have emotionally-connected sex with another person.
When you have sex too early in the dating process, you're essentially having sex with a stranger. If you come from a background where you already have experienced others as untrustworthy and not interested at all in your feelings, experimenting with empty or disappointing sex can further your general feelings of alienation from others, vulnerability, and depression.
She claimed it was rape, he claimed it was consensual, and a jury acquitted him of the charges.