Teen advice on dating older guys


With Christian blogs today, we can access answers to most every life question without even picking up the phone. It’s hard for most Christians to spend time alone with God.We should still ask you, but we don’t need older men mainly because they’re smarter. For you to take time with the Father — with Father — to intercede for us, to pray for our good, and to ask for wisdom for us, means more than you know. Take those ten or fifteen years you have on us and do with them in prayer what we haven’t learned to do yet as unskilled, inexperienced, and scared younger men. We’re not your peers, so don’t measure yourself against us.On behalf of other younger men, with humility and boldness, we plead with our older brothers for five things. Young men need to hear, “Everything’s going to be okay.” Most days we’re pretty sure our lives are an utter failure, a disaster zone even. You pray, “From my youth you have taught me,” and, “Even to old age and gray hairs, O God, do not forsake me, until I proclaim your might to another generation, your power to all those to come” (Psalm –18).

I do not intend to defend a certain set of rules, or refute any.

Neither will I pretend like I have the best advice, since I am not even married.

There is a sad and wide gulf between older men and younger men today.

Generational discrimination and segregation are alive and, well, discouraging.

If you like a guy or he likes you, it’s perfectly OK to ask him not to post things about you online, including pictures.