You will notice when it is time to pick up the pace.
Some men will not realize that they don't want the divorce until they are faced with it head on. After two weeks he called it off at the marriage counselors office and came looking for me. I did it and had to deal with her fighting for him for the next 3 years. I have had all of this stuff on my mind for years now and it is a way of healing for me to write about it. I have 2 girls that I wish I could protect from losers but they will have to learn like I did from my mistakes I suppose. I hope to help others from going through the same thing I did. ) I hope that my future daughters (fingers crossed - at some point...) will have better sense than I did and come across articles like this one :)Digby - I wasn't that smart. I am happy where we are at now but it took a lot of years off my life just getting through his divorce.
This tends to make them rethink things and want to make things work. I had been involved with this man for a few months when I find out that he had agreed with his soon to be ex wife that he would try to work it out with her. She did everything she could to make him feel sorry for her so that he would come back to her. I had to listen to him talking her through her emotional fits. I did end up marrying the guy that was going through the divorce and we are very happy right now. I wish I would have been strong enough to say NO and get divorced first.
You will want to be cautious of how fast you make your moves when dating a divorced woman.
She is most likely looking for a mate that will fit her needs, and will take her time making sure that her needs are met.
For example, when at home everyone gets along and does activities together, but in public the child may ignore the step parent and keep a distance.